07 March 2014

Five Minute Friday ~ When You're Willing...



...but God says "No..."
???

If you'd ask me, I'd probably tell you that I mostly tend to be a willing person - mostly ready to help, most likely to say yes, first in line to give and sacrifice - at least a little, often looking for and working on those areas where I need to change...

My husband would probably agree with that statement. Actually, he'd probably say I'm too willing.It is often a cause of friction in our marriage: I want to... He wants to finish what we're already doing well before diving into more...

I'm willing, but he says "No," or at the very least, "At least not at this time..."

Then I'm unhappy.

Or mad, frustrated and giving him the silent treatment.

Or thinking he's selfish and not willing to let me serve and do because that means he'll have to serve and do more around the house.

Or assuming he's being a jerk.

Or...


But my numerous ors are almost always wrong. Sometimes I can see that once the anger and disappointment have passed. Occasionally I'll even admit that to be the case and ask forgiveness for my angry attitude and hasty words once my protestations of "But just think how great this would be for our family..." have been countered - that countering being either right or wrong.

That doesn't change the fact that it is hard when I've got a vision for something... when I feel convicted about something... when I'm sure I'm willing and I should be... and he says "No."

It's even harder when God says "No."
  • No - I don't want you to serve there right now.
  • No - Another child is not part of my plan for your family.
  • No - That job was not for you.
  • No - You think you need _____________________, but what you really need is _________________.
  • Or just plain "No," and no explanations, no reasons or even good explanatory hypotheses, no thank-yous for your willingness, no understandings of why.
Sometimes there's just a "No," and arguing is futile. It doesn't usually stop me from from complaining, from pestering, from nagging, from trying to change God's mind, though... and in that trying, I show that I wasn't as willing as I thought I was. Or perhaps more willing to sacrifice than to simply obey, regardless of the cost ...or lack of cost.

Sometimes? 


When I'm willing and God says "No" I discover that really
  • my will had not submitted to Almighty authority, 
  • yes, I'm a willing person... willing to push my agenda, my decisions, my ideas, my will - regardless. Yeah...there's a dark side to being "willing."
  • my motivations were inherently selfish and I didn't even know, 
  • my willingness wasn't sincere because it was all about me and had very little to do with loving and serving God or with loving and serving others.
Am I willing to still smile and accept with gentle contentment when God says: 


"My child, you may be willing. But in this circumstance, this moment, I AM not?"

Do I accept that God, in His perfect and blessed unwillingness towards my thoughts and ideas might be working something I can't understand or see and might just be demonstrating His willingness towards another?

Jesus ran into that ~

...Father, if thou be willing, 
remove this cup from me: 
nevertheless not my will, 
but thine, 
be done.
(Luke 22.42, KJV)


(photos of the little girls with their cousins... 
one of those times when Mama was willing to let them play in the make-up.)
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Head on over to Lisa Jo's and join with us. 
We're writing on the topic of "willing" today.
And in the spirit of full disclosure - 6'30" for today's write.

05 March 2014

Better LATE than NEVER ~ Photos from CBA's Spirit Week, Day ONE ~

Day 1 for the biggers was "Hero/Villain Day."
Do you know who they are?

Or for the littlers... 
What their class theme was?




She actually designed this costume all by herself... made it with very little help and input and only a little bit of $$ from the parental units...

and was chosen the best costume for that day.

Yippee!!


Correctly guess the costume/theme for each Wrightling... or be the closest to doing so... and we've got a gift for you! 

We'll even mail it overseas!

(PS This contest is not open to CBA folks... 'cause as my Wrightlings say, "That would be cheating!")

03 March 2014

Encountering Jesus: Made to Stand Before...

Then they all went home...but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives. 
At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” They were using this question as a trap,in order to have a basis for accusing him. 
But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. 
At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?" 
“No one, sir,” she said. 
“Then neither do I condemn you,”Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” (John 7.53-8.11)

It is a horrible feeling, to have your sin found out... 

To be made to stand before others, guilty, publicly shamed, humiliated... and terrified of the stones other Christians are sure to throw your way. 

If you've ever been there, you know what I mean... You see the look of repulsion in their eyes or worse yet, hear others voice the idea, "I know I still sin sometimes, but I'd NEVER do THAT... not what SHE did."

And so you close your eyes, tense your body, cringe... and wait...

Those who claim to have experienced God's grace and who claim to be so gracious themselves... so ready to throw those stones. A judgment of guilty pronounced. The sentence of stoning to be readily executed by a crowd that thinks they've got it. They know they understand yet most often? They don't... They don't know all, or sometimes even any, and certainly not the most relevant facts and details and circumstances. 

In this day and age, in this culture and country, the "stones" we tend to hurl are of the grammatical variety - adjectives, nouns, verbs, adverbs and expletives. Then, there are the stones of ostracism, of gossip, of unforgiveness, of isolation, of wearing that scarlet letter, of automatic and immediate disqualification, regardless... 

It wasn't always that way. It is still very different in other places and other cultures. Those stones, hurled then... and there... caused/cause violent physical damage and often slow, lingering death. Stones flung today, at those unsaavy enough to be caught in such circumstances cause bleeding, brokenness, discouragement, destruction and demolition. 

I met a dear lady since we've been home for our furlough, after I sat behind her in church. I noticed her because she almost never stopped writing on a large yellow legal pad - the entire service. At first I thought maybe she really liked the song we were singing and wanted the words. Then I figured she was busy taking notes - until I noticed that she was writing the same thing over and over and over. My next idea was that maybe she was working on a memory verse - and so nosy, I finally peeked at what she was so busy scratching out time and time again.

"I am a good person and I am worthy."

I felt almost physically sick when I read  her sentence. 

What had to have happened to this woman, several years my senior, that she was desperately scrawling these words hundreds of times on a yellow legal pad, frantically trying to chisel them into her soul and spirit, instead of spending her Sunday morning soaking in teaching, challenge, exhortation and encouragement from God's Word?

There was some truth to her scrivenry - though some might emphatically deny  that idea. I don't understand how, however, when God created each one of us and He declared/s His creation good... when each human is made in the very image of Almighty God. Men are worthy because He made us, because He decided to sacrifice His infinitely valuable Son to save us.

Yet there can also be an insidious lie contained in that scribbled over and over line. I am not worthy BECAUSE I am a good person. I am not a good person. I'm a sinner with a heart so deceitfully wicked I can't comprehend the depth of my own depravity. In my own efforts, I could never merit Jesus' sacrifice. No matter what I do, God had no reason to send His Son to save me because I'd somehow earned it. He had no reason outside of the reality of His own character - His kindness, His love, His mercy, His grace and His absolutely unfathomable desire for some incomprehensible-to-me reason to reveal Himself to me and to be known and glorified by me.

When the woman caught in adultery was made to stand before Jesus I wonder...
  • Where was her partner? (I mean, she was caught in the act...)
  • Where was her husband?
  • Was she clothed or had they further shamed her not just by exposing her sin, but by exposing her?
  • What did Jesus write?
  • Did she hang her head in shame and try to shrink away from all the staring eyes or did she glare defiantly at her accusers? at Jesus?
  • How long was she made to stand before... as her accusers silently, one by one, left that place?
  • How many accusers?
  • Did the accusers see what Jesus wrote in the sand?
  • Did the woman see what Jesus wrote in the sand?
Could He have written, over and over and over and over, something like: 

"Woman, you are good because you are 
one of my precious chefs-d'Ĺ“uvre. 
Woman, you are worthy because I infinitely value and love you - 
so much so I'm going to die for you and
pay the penalty your sin demands."


The crowd soon tired of watching Him write and continued to press Him with questions concerning the woman's guilt and punishment. 

Then...

In a simple sentence, Jesus made every single person there listening, participating... Jesus made them to stand before Him - the only judge with the ability to rightly judge, the only one with qualifications and the capability to judge rightly.

“Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” 

I'm wondering tonight.

If we were a little less ready to throw stones - maybe people wouldn't be so desperate for approval and success, and the keeping up of appearances...

Maybe they'd be more ready to risk big for God.

I'd love to know the "rest of the story" for this woman... What happened to her? How did her life change? Did she... and if so, how... did she risk big for the One who freed her from those chains of desperation, others' approval, appearances?

this week's gratitude list
(#'s 4410 - 4439)

writing again

1st and 2nd grade girls playing basketball

kiddo making a basket

state champions

cheerleaders excited about their team winning

future direction and...

a plan

sharing those plans with those who partner with us

hearing back from many people about those future plans

most of what we've heard back has been encouraging - even and although some are choosing to no longer partner with us

Sunday afternoon hanging out with Gammie and Gampie

a night out with friends a few weeks back

safety as we travel frequently what has been labeled the most accident prone stretch of freeway in Michigan

getting to visit Aunt Mary and Uncle Wayne's new house last weekend

dreaming about a maybe house for us some day

new season of Survivor!

M&M is finally somewhat interested in Cubbies... at least on some nights

Brendan will be home in less than two weeks... seems like forever since I had my boy here with me

our trips to Iowa and New York are coming together, finally

some good leads for some new churches to visit

the end of basketball season - our big girls are looking forward to more time at home

enjoying watching the Olympics last month

prayers for safety for misso friends in dangerous places

hopefully a dress to which we can make some alterations for Rebekah... for her formal banquet coming up soon

hard conversations

big girls excited about phone calls with favorite friends

history day projects finally done

science fair project almost done

first finding and now listening to a really awesome worship music album made by one of our friends

5th and 6th graders singing in Hebrew


  
Ten most recent posts in this series: 
Click here for all of the titles and their corresponding links in the Encountering Jesus series.

27 February 2014

Big Changes! And our latest prayer letter ~

In our Christmas letter, we indicated that changes were in store, and now we have the freedom to share those with you….

The last few years, God has opened our eyes to the fact that He was changing our direction.


Niger is home. We love living and ministering in that land and we’ve made many special and dear friends. Yet Tim has trained several young men and a few young women to do most of what he was doing at the studio. There are now two Christian radio stations in Niger. One of those stations is now responsible for producing the weekly radio broadcasts as well as for airing Thru the Bible each week day. Several of the other ministries we were helping to oversee are in their final stages of becoming independent of the mission and we began (reluctantly) asking ourselves if perhaps God was prompting us to consider another ministry somewhere else.

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Head on over to our ministry web page to read the rest...

24 February 2014

Ever seen a baby lizard dressed in Polly Pocket clothing?

I have. I wish I had a picture… But I don’t. All I have is the memory.

And that memory often gets me thinking about this fact.



Sometimes, we missionary types take ourselves a little too seriously. We want to
  • be effective,
  • impact lives,
  • not just do what we do well but very well – if not perfectly,
  • look good while doing it,
  • maybe garner a few more ministry partners, and
  • have at least a few great stories to share.
We sometimes forget we’re just ordinary folks serving an extraordinary God, often in not-your-run-of-the-mill locations.

My son is off for his freshman year of college. One of the things that so impressed us about the university he is attending was their rather extensive program and system of support in place to help international students and TCKs transition to this new phase of life. During his most recent trip home, I was asking him about his friends, and in particular, if he spent much time hanging out with his fellow TCK-types. His comment went something along the lines of, “Yeah, I do hang out with them sometimes. But sometimes I get tired of being part of a group of people that thinks they are more special and unique than everyone else. Sometimes, I think they’d be more fun if they’d just get over it.”

Ouch!

But back to my lizard story…

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of this lizard story as well as my thoughts about ordinary missionaries and tcks.

I'd love for you to jump on in, join the conversation; I so appreciate your input!

06 February 2014

Lovably a "Ruffnut" AND Eleven

We had another birthday this week.

Victoria.


She's ELEVEN... going on THIRTY-FIVE, I think.

People say she's the most like me

(which isn't necessarily a complement).

But perhaps that means that if she had to choose a faction, she'd choose Dauntless...

For on good days, she does say and do things that fit with Tris' character ~
“I have a theory that selflessness and bravery aren't all that different.” 
“We believe in ordinary acts of bravery, in the courage that drives one person to stand up for another.”
“Politeness is deception in pretty packaging.” 
“Who cares about pretty? I'm going for noticeable.” 
“It reminds me why I chose Dauntless in the first place: not because they are perfect, but because they are alive. Because they are free.”
&
“...there is power in self-sacrifice.”

I often thought "Victoria" as I was reading the book...





It's highly possible that given the opportunity, she'd argue with a fence post, and most likely win!

I now understand why my mom always used to say the same about me...

"And if I were weak and girly, I'd be my brother."
"You know, they say competition is the very essence of life itself."

Tuffnut: Try those songs mom used to sing to us when you were little and afraid of the dark.
Ruffnut: You were afraid of the dark, not me! I was afraid of you!
Tuffnut: Just sing!
Ruffnut: (Sings) Hush little viking, don't you cry...Or the beserkers will come and stab you in the eye...Don't let the enemy see you afraid, or he'll cut you with a rusty blade...

But for all her bravado, she really does have a tender, gentle spirit - when she's willing to share it with others...

That's real bravery instead of mere bravado... and a lot harder to learn in the long run.


Even though she's most like me, 
sometimes I think I understand her the least of all of these Wrightlings...
You know... all those "Why do I do that/say that/act that ways... we're always asking ourselves...

Thus, I find myself asking these well-known questions ~
???????????????????
How do you catch a cloud and pin it down?
???????????????????
But how do you make her stay and listen to all you say?
???????????????????
How do you keep a wave upon the sand?
???????????????????
How do you hold a moonbeam in your hand?
???????????????????

These oft' sung words describe her, more eloquently than I...

She'd outpester any pest
Drive a hornet from its nest
She could throw a whirling dervish out of whirl
She is gentle! She is wild!
She's a riddle! She's a child!
She's a headache! She's an angel!
She's a girl!


Because that's not just the way we love her...

it's also the way we really like her, as Ruffnut herself would say, 
a whole stinkin' lot!!!

(Yep... there's a whole lot "borrowed" to construct this post... from 
Divergent, The Sound of Music, and How to Train Your Dragon movie/TV series. 
Also a special thanks to Holley VanDenBerg for sharing the better quality and in focus 
Ruffnut and Ruffnut/Tuffnut photos!)

02 February 2014

A brief but beautiful stop @ Jekyll Island ~


a break from the car and cold, leftover pizza for lunch



fascinated by Spanish moss



wind and waves



We didn't see any... Think the girls look worried?


first glimpse of the Atlantic









Anna, Tori and Rebekah watching the waves.




lots of jellyfish washed up on the shore


My favorite people in the whole wide world...

...and a prize to the first who can correctly identify each one in the picture!
Leave a comment!

01 February 2014

Can Failure Really Become Common Ground?

Recently, I've been reading a lot of young adult fiction... partly because I find I often enjoy that particular genre of literature that doesn't seem to be purely entertainment but also willing to ask good and real questions that don't always have clear and easy answers... and partly because I like to know what my kiddos are reading.

And so, in recent weeks, I read the Divergent Trilogy.

I thoroughly enjoyed it.

Here are a few quotable quotes... 






I found some wallpapers on line with some of the quality quotes that I'd notes. (In other words, I'm not responsible for any spelling errors.)

So what's the trilogy all about?

Set sometime in a future Chicago, society has divided into five (well, technically six, but more about that in a minute) factions or groups: Candor, Amity, Abnegation, Erudite and Dauntless. Each faction is characterized by a particular trait. You can probably figure out the respective traits by thinking about (or looking up in a dictionary if you need to) the meaning of their respective names. As teens approach adulthood, they are given a test to help them determine their primary trait. With that knowledge, each one then chooses whether they will remain in their family faction - where they've spent their entire life up to this point - or if they will choose a different faction based on the results of their test. Then, as "candidates" for their chosen faction, they go through a period of qualification/initiation: they train for some final "test" at which point they are then welcomed into their faction. Those who do not pass their qualification test become part of that sixth group - identified as factionless and they are the outcasts of society.

The lead character discovers during her test that she does not have a predominant trait... she is what they call divergent, and would be in great danger if the powers that be were to discover this about her...

What should she do?

The choices she makes, the people in her life, the questions with which she wrestles, and the circumstances she lives ARE the story of the trilogy.


The lessons she learns and the person she becomes are worth thinking about.

I also believe these books fit the criteria outlined in Philippians 4 as far as the thoughts with which we are to fill our minds - although a certain level of maturity is necessary to read them. I've encouraged my thirteen and older to read the trilogy; my 11 year old has only been allowed to read the first book.



My favorite book of the series, however, was the second one, Insurgent, probably because it is in this book that I feel readers see the main character grow and change the most.

Here's my favorite quote ~

 (p. 409-410, Insurgentby Veronica Roth)

I love the truth of this quote. We are all unique and different, with different strengths and talents and abilities. But one thing we have in common is failure. Everyone fails. And everyone has the opportunity to learn, grow and become someone new as a result of those failures... and when we recognize, confess and move on, allowing our failures to unite us and to spur us on to something better, something powerful happens. That is a large part of the story of this book... 


Have you read this series? If so, how did you feel about the trilogy? What most challenged or most disturbed you about these books?

If you've not yet read the series - do you think you will? What about your young adults? Will you encourage them to read? Why or why not?

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