16 July 2014

~ Not Too Wordy Wednesday ~ Facebook + a Friend named Miss Neff + a waterfront swing = Spontaneous Serendipity!

Some days I love Facebook.

Especially when I find out a friend we've not seen in over a year is, totally unexpectedly, just 90 miles distant.

So we hopped in the car (those who were available) and went to see her.





 










 











































 














Visits like these are never long enough, but oh so worth it!

Thanks to Anna, as she
took most of these photos!

15 July 2014

Book Review ~ Preparing Your Teen for College ~


I wanted to read this book, for obvious reasons. I've one who, at the time I received the book, was completing his freshman year and then we've got seven more in line who will, most likely, someday be entering this world of post-secondary school education. My husband and I had already discovered that the struggles our son was experiencing and the ones we'd expected didn't always overlap, and I was hoping this book could give some insight.


I can't say that Preparing Your Teens for College by Alex Chediak did that, exactly. Rather, what it did do was reassure me that there isn't a formula where you punch in some values to replace some variables and the outcome is a nice, neat and tidy equation that is easily solvable. Raising kids is a learning experience - for both child and parent - and I think key to successful navigation of this time period is recognizing that success is movement towards a goal, even if the goal itself is not immediately achieved.

It is different from other materials out there that talk about getting kids ready for college. Many of those focus on things like making sure your child knows how to do his/her laundry, preventing unwanted pregnancy or disease, ways to ensure academic success or developing a plan for avoiding the dreaded freshman fifteen... This book is different. It is set up as a guide for a series of conversations... discussions, if you will... that need to occur between parents and fledgling son or daughter about ready to fly the nest. Eleven conversations structured around things like character, faith, relationships, finances, academics, the college decision are the meat of this text and one idea that is clearly driven home in this book is that "thriving at college begins in the home" as well as in confident and comfortable relationships between parent and child where hard things can be discussed and challenged and even disagreed. For me, one of the most encouraging results of reading this book was not as a "guide" for what we need to do with the rest of the kids, but rather a confirmation that the hard talks we were already having, whether they fit into these specific categories or not, were important and had us on a good track. 

At the same time, I think it is also key to remember that just having these conversations and feeling comfortable with the outcome of them, while a possible predictor of a young person's success at college, does not guarantee a parent's desired outcome...

As I reflect back on my son's first year of college, there were moments of great encouragement where I could see that he was getting it, was learning some hard lessons and was growing as a result. There were other moments where I was tempted to panic and wondered if we might be losing our boy. In the end, I keep turning back to the fact that we've got a great relationship with him, I think he genuinely loves and respects us as well as values our input, but that he is becoming his own man and that we need to trust God and His Spirit to continue shaping, molding and growing our boy - just as He already has.



This book is definitely worth the time investment as long as readers don't expect a formula for guaranteed success.

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14 July 2014

Encountering Jesus ~ "Cock-a-d00dle-d00!" they crowed.

A second time they summoned the man who had been blind. “Give glory to God by telling the truth,” they said. “We know this man is a sinner.” (John 9.24)


"Give glory to God by telling the truth!"

I can almost hear those Pharisees shouting, threatening, crowing... 

Can't you? 

The word translated summoned in the very first verse of this section is THE. EXACT. SAME. VERB. used to describe the sound a rooster makes first thing in the morning. Although it is never just first thing in the morning. If you've ever been around a rooster much, you'll know that they actually are prone to crow at just about any time. 

Ever wonder why?
Roosters crow because they hear other roosters crowing, to show that a certain place in the barnyard is their turf, to try and assert their authority over another rooster, or even to gloat when a hen cackles after laying an egg. Joe Faust, the Accidental Farmer (JoeCliffordFaust.com/chickens), says, “I think the general rule for this is that a rooster crows any time it ...feels the need. (http://www.grit.com/departments/secret-of-the-roosters-crow.aspx)
I find that explanation rather amusing as I think about it in relation to this verse. 

Ever notice how there's never just one Pharisee at a time confronting Jesus... only Nicodemus? He was one of the few Pharisees who walked away changed.  The Pharisees tended to gang up and make a joint assault any time they accosted the Lord.

In this scene, were the Pharisees:
  • "crowing" because they were proclaiming that that place, that time, was their turf? How like the rooster crowing at the farmer, insisting that the barnyard is his turf while the farmer owns miles of farmland all around and including that tiny spot.
  • "crowing because they were asserting their authority as the well-known and longstanding religious authorities over an upstart young rabbi who was rapidly rising to prominence in their community?
  • "crowing" because because they saw what Jesus did as a threat to their position or as an insult to their pride, just as a cock might do after a hen cackles in triumph? Keep in mind that He had just performed a mighty miracle. He healed a man born blind so that the works of the Almighty God would be displayed. 
What sort of "thing" other than "crow" could those Pharisees do to draw attention away from that beautiful, gloriously-just-like-Jesus "thing?"
It creates quite a funny picture in my mind... mentally watching this scene play out while substituting in my head a bunch of roosters for those Pharisees. There they are, crowing at the blind man as they desperately grasp, seeking to re-establish their dominance and leadership and unquestionable authority in their little domain... and blind to the fact that they were fighting against the very one who had created them, gives them every moment of life, sustains them, reveals Himself to them.

But after a few moments of reflection, it is no longer funny.

Those Pharisees are really a sad sight.

If only they would have simply stopped preening and strutting and crowing just long enough to really listen, really see...

...and change.


Lord, please show me where I'm acting just as those Pharisees in this passage: 
silly, stupid, smug and supercilious, 
loud-mouthed and most often annoying, 
nothing more than simple birds...

Make plain the Pharisee in me.

Any of you praying that prayer with me?

this week's gratitude list

(#'s 4627 - 4657)
Daddy is recovering at home, but he is home from the hospital

Getting to visit with him this past weekend

birthday party with the "new" cousins

girls in driver's ed

teens filling out lots of job applications

a beautiful few days of rustic camping up on the tip of the Leelanau, right on Lake Michigan

new, thick sleeping bags

two tents for these growing bodies

piles of clothing and sleeping bags that smell like a campfire

wandering through the Grand Traverse Light - reading the history, looking at all the pictures

kiddos catching tadpoles... or "catapults" if you're M&M

big, beautiful garter snakes

Conrad the parrot-y type bird

continuing to volunteer at the ARK each week - and watching my biggers enjoy it

a big project checked off the to-do list

brand new dryer

brand new dehumidifier for the basement

a new partner on our financial support team

and the potential for another church, too!

a new job opportunity

growing herb garden (including lavender and sage!)

fresh peas off the vine

60¢ off each gallon - gas coupon

blueberry-mint lemonade

blackberry bushes starting to grow in the back yard

daddy-daughter day all day, just the two of them with a few other friends

quaint fishing villages along Lake Michigan

fireworks with new friends

actually not driving anywhere far away for a whole week

looking forward to a visit later this week from a really great guy! (and wishing he'd be able to bring his whole family with him)

mosquitoes... seriously! Although, you may have to follow the link to find out why!


  Ten most recent posts in this series: 
Click here for all of the titles and their corresponding links in the Encountering Jesus series.

13 July 2014

~ Homeward Bound ~

The 9th grade girls, including Nadia, sang this piece for MACS competition this past school year.


They won...

But tons more important than that is the message of this song that has been ingrained into my girly's heart... and mine...

The song still ministers to my heart, especially during those hard moments... days... 

Listen to the words ~ 

12 July 2014

My Precious... or otherwise known as my Amish rocking chair

One of my friends recently wrote a post at a life overseas... and thus you now know the inspiration for this "true confession..."

We'd only been married for a short time when we discovered that our first child would be arriving in time to celebrate our first anniversary with us. Talk about instant delight with a good mix of terror and "Ummm... God, that's not quite the timing we were thinking..."! However, it wasn't look before we settled into our new reality: WE. WERE. PARENTS.

No, we hadn't officially met Wrightling #1. Not yet. But our lives had already changed and would continue to so, all because we had a little one on the way.

Of course, grandparents on both sides were super excited; hubby's mom squealed and did a happy dance... both grandfathers just looked at us with surprised and goofy grins. My mom promptly purchased a first gift - an Amish rocking chair! I love that chair! It was the one chair in which I could sit after a long day on my feet teaching middle school ...and my back wouldn't hurt. It was my favorite place to be as I sat and rocked my little guy while nursing him or trying to calm the colicky him. It was where we snuggled together on long and feverishly sleepless nights, played peek-a-boo, sang "Deep in the Hundred Acre Wood,..." The list could go on and on.

Yes, I love that rocker!


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I hesitated to write the rest of this one... Wondering who might wonder if I was "a few french fries short of a Happy Meal," as we like to say in our family.

But this is a for real, true story. And no names have been changed to protect the guilty!

So please head on over to Missionary Mom's Companion - and don't forget to answer my question at the end of the post.

Thanks for reading!
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photo credit: 

11 July 2014

Five Minute Friday ~ Blessed to Belong, right here... right now...


One of my biggers tiptoed into my room late one night and gently tapped my foot to get my attention and wake me up. 

"Huh?" I asked through my sleep-fogged brain. 

I'd actually fallen asleep quite a bit earlier than normal and the older kids were just heading to bed. I was tired, so I tried to roll over and bury my head back under the covers.

"No, Mama. You've got to see the picture," replied the bigger.

"What? I think I'm still asleep. You want me to open my eyes?" I yawned.

"Come on, Mama! It is so sweet."

Inwardly I groaned. All three of my female biggers are Pinteresters. I finally got an account so they could send me funny pins that I could put onto a board and then giggle when I had time to peruse said board. I figured she wanted to show me some silly Disney pin ... or cat pin... or horse pin... or wolf pin... or... Well, that list could probably go on an on.

"Pleeeeeeeze..." she whined.

I rubbed my eyes and blinked as she turned on the picture preview on the camera. I could barely see it at first - the light was a bit blinding - but there was a picture of Jonathan and Elsie Mae, side by side and sound asleep on the bottom bunk. A reading light hung down from the slats above them; Jonathan had been reading to his little sis to help her fall asleep. Also laying right there in a row beside them was teddy bear that's almost as big as they are so that Jonathan didn't have to sleep on the outside of the bed. The bear is M&M's - she must have brought the bear in so that it could "look out for and watch over" her buddies - her big sis and big bro.

That photo wasn't remarkable, but it was sweet.

It reminds me of just how blessed I am to belong to a family where the biggers think it is so sweet to see their siblings being best of friends and looking out for each other... so sweet, in fact, that they'd snap a photo and then wake their mama up...

...just to share a tiny taste of that sweet kindness with me.

Who cares about an uninterrupted eight hours of sleep when I get to belong to something so amazing?

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Linking up here for Five Minute Friday this week.
Hope you can join us!


08 July 2014

In honor of summer... and mosquitoes (or moustiques... or mosquitos... or...) ...a repost!

Strangely, it is one of the things I'm thankful for this summer...

Mosquitoes.

They are bigger here than they were in W. Africa.
They definitely hurt worse when they impale you.
But I don't have to worry about my kiddos and malaria.
Other things, perhaps... but not malaria.

And since we've got a bit of a history with that disease, 
I'm thankful every time I here one of those critters buzzing in my ear, 
rub a bit of creme on a particularly itchy bite, 
or swat and kill one while it is still on the attack.


~ Hence this repost... in honor of Madame Moustique ~ 

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One morning, a mosquito saw an iguana drinking at a waterhole. The mosquito said, "Iguana, you will never believe what I saw yesterday."

"Try me," said the iguana.


"The mosquito said, "I saw a farmer digging yams that were almost as big as I am."

"What's a mosquito compared to a yam?" snapped the iguana grumpily. "I would rather be deaf than listen to such nonsense!" Then he stuck two sticks in his ears and went off, mek, mek, mek, mek, through the reeds.

The iguana was still grumbling to himself when he happened to pass by a python.

The big snake raised his head and said, "Good morning, Iguana."

The iguana did not answer but lumbered on, bobbing his head, badamin, badamin.

"Now, why won't he speak to me?" said the python to himself. "Iguana must be angry about something. I'm afraid he is plotting some mischief against me!" He began looking for somewhere to hide. The first likely place he found was a rabbit hole, and in it he went, wasawusu, wasawusu, wasawusu.

When the rabbit saw the big snake coming into her burrow, she was terrified. She scurried out through her back way and bounded, krik, krik, krik, across a clearing.

A crow saw the rabbit running for her life. He flew into the forest crying kaa, kaa, kaa! It was his duty to spread the alarm in case of danger.

A monkey heard the crow. He was sure that some dangerous beast was prowling near. He began screeching and leaping kili wili through the trees to help warn the other animals.

As the monkey was crashing through the treetops, he happened to land on a dead limb. It broke and fell on an owl's nest, killing one of the owlets.

Mother Owl was not at home. For though she usually hunted only in the night, this morning she was out searching for one more tidbit to satisfy her hungry babies. When she returned to the nest, she found one of them dead. Her other children told her that monkey had killed it. All that day and all that night, she sat in her tree -- so sad, so sad, so sad!

Now it was Mother Owl who woke the sun each day so that the dawn could come. But this time, when she should have hooted for the sun, she did not do it.

The night grew longer and longer. The animals of the forest knew it was lasting much too long. They feared that the sun would never come back.

At last King Lion called a meeting of the animals. They came and sat down, pem, pem, pem, around a council of fire. Mother Owl did not come, so the antelope was sent to fetch her.


When she arrived, King Lion asked, "Mother Owl, why have you not called the sun? The night has lasted long, long, long, and everyone is worried."

Mother Owl said, "Monkey killed one of my owlets. Because of that, I cannot bear to wake the sun."

The king said to the gathered animals:  "Did you hear? It was the monkey who killed the owlet-- and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

Then King Lion called the monkey. He came before him nervously glancing from side to side, rim, rim, rim, rim.

"Monkey," said the king, "why did you kill one of Mother Owl's babies?"


"Oh, King," said the monkey, "it was the crow's fault. He was calling and calling to warn us of danger. And I went leaping through the trees to help. A limb broke under me and it fell taaa on the owl's nest."

The king said to the council: "So, it was the crow who alarmed the monkey, who killed the owlet and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

Then the kind called for the crow. That big bird came flapping up. He said, "King Lion, it was the rabbit's fault! I saw her running for her life in the daytime. Wasn't that reason enough to spread the alarm?"

The king nodded his head and said to the council: "So, it was the rabbit who startled the crow, who alarmed the monkey, who killed the owlet -- and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

Then King Lion called the rabbit. The timid little creature stood before him, one trembling paw drawn up uncertainly.

"Rabbit," cried the king, "why did you break a law of nature and go running, running, running, in the daytime?"

"Oh, King," said the rabbit, "it was the python's fault. I was in my house minding my own business when that big snake came in and chased me out."

So the king said to the council: "So, it was the pythod who scared the rabbit, who startled the crow, who alarmed the monkey, who killed the owlet -- and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

King Lion called the python, who came slithering, wasawusu, wasawusu, past the other animals. "But King," he cried, "it was the iguana's fault! He wouldn't speak to me. And I thought he was plotting some mischief against me. When I crawled into the rabbit's hole, I was only trying to hide."

The king said to the council: "So, it was the iguana who frightened the python, who scared the rabbit, who startled the crow, who alarmed the monkey, who killed the owlet -- and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

Now the iguana was not at the meeting. For he had not heard the summons.

The antelope was sent to fetch him.

All the animals laughed when they saw the iguana coming, badamin, badamin, with the sticks still stuck in his ears!

King Lion pulled out the sticks, purup, purup. Then he asked, "Iguana, what evil have you been plotting against the python?"

"None! None at all!" cried the iguana, "Python is my friend!"

"Then why wouldn't you say good morning to me?" demanded the snake.

"I didn't hear you, or even see you!" said the iguana. "Mosquito told me such a big lie, I couldn't bear to listen to it. So I put sticks in my ears."

"Nge, nge, nge," laughed the lion. "So that's why you had sticks in your ears!"

"Yes," said the iguana. "It was the mosquito's fault."

"So, it was the mosquito who annoyed the iguana who frightened the python, who scared the rabbit, who startled the crow, who alarmed the monkey, who killed the owlet -- and now Mother Owl won't wake the sun so that the day can come."

"Punish the mosquito! Punish the mosquito!" cried all the animals.

When Mother Owl heard that, she was satisfied. She turned her head toward the east and hooted: "Hoo! Hoooooo! Hooooooo!"

And the sun came up.

Meanwhile the mosquito had listened to it all from a nearby bush. She crept under a curly leaf and was never found and brought before the council.

But because of this, the mosquito has a guilty conscience. To this day she goes about whining in people's ears: "Zeee! Is everyone still angry at me?"


When she does that, she gets an honest answer:

"Kuh -POW!"


first photo credit: Johan J.Ingles-Le Nobel via photopin cc

05 July 2014

All the pieces were there, but...

...this book just didn't work.

I was intrigued. I wanted it to work. I really tried to like this book. The topics broached were fascinating, challenging ones. I really liked some of the characters.

But...

...it just didn't work.

Veil of Secrets, a cooperative effort by Shannon Ethridge and Kathryn Mackel, strives to immerse its reader into the soap opera of the political campaign world, imagining what that might look like when the players are followers of Jesus as well as the challenges and very real struggles they might face.

There are several key characters, and that may have been the book's downfall. I wanted to know more about them, wanted them to come alive and become real people and not just two dimensional curiosities on the page. Yet that never happened. I was never clear if Melanie (the wife) or Carrie (the sister) was the key protagonist and was always left feeling slightly cheated, as a reader, that neither story was explored to the depth it could have been. The "terrorist threat" was cheesy and did not connect well with the other elements of the story. It wasn't even truly frightening. Most of the characters seemed more self-absorbed than truly interested in their worlds or those around them - and this was supposed to be in the context of a Christian campaign center. With the exception of Carrie, my favorite characters were ones the authors barely touched on - the therapist and the coordinator of the MoveIn protesters.

My husband asked me about the book after I put it down and my comment was something like: "All the pieces seemed to be there, but woven together, the resulting tapestry had huge gaps and thin places. Perhaps if the authors had made a longer book... or a series... with the time to truly look at the many issues they introduced, the book might have been a more satisfying read." 

It's just my opinion, but if you are considering this book, I'd have to say, "Don't bother..."



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